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Finding The “Music” Between The Notes…..

by David Brock on May 24th, 2022

Some years ago, my father was mentoring a young man. My father was in his late 80s, the young man was in his late 20s and autistic. Both shared a passion for music. One day, my dad invited me to visit the young man, let me call him Robert. Robert lived in a special home, when we arrived he was sitting at the piano. He was playing some of the works of Schoenberg. The pieces were very complex, Robert’s playing was beautiful.

I wasn’t smart enough to recognize the talent it took for Robert to play this music, I recognized it was beautiful, but dad heard more. He asked Robert how he managed to interpret the music and play so well. Robert’s answer was stunning, it has always stayed with me:

I’m trying to find the music between the notes, that’s where the magic is.

I understood, what he was expressing was the magic in the way he played had less to do with the notes on the sheet music, but how he played the notes, how he interpreted them and expressed them as he played the piano.

Perhaps, making an awkward connection to high performance sellers, the same concept applies. As high performing sellers engage customers in collaborative conversations, they listen differently.

They aren’t listening just to what is being said, they are trying to find the meaning between the words and sentences that are being said. They are listening to how the customer is expressing themselves, the emotions/feelings behind what they are saying. They are listening to understand why the customer is saying or responding a certain way. They are listening to what isn’t being said, probing to understand why.

High performers, in any profession, but particularly selling, recognize the “magic” is that which lies between the statements or positions. They seek to engage others in understanding these.

Too many of us don’t recognize this, if we try to listen at all, we only hear what is being said, but often miss the most important part of the conversation, the real meaning of the conversation.

And the worst, are not intent on learning at all, not trying to understand what is being said, but listening with our own agenda.

And in both of these cases, we fail. We fail to connect with others in the most meaningful way.

The magic in collaborative conversations, is going beyond what is being said. It’s trying to find the “music” between the sentences.

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2 Comments
  1. Amazing, David… I can imagine the profound experience this was with ‘Robert’ and your father. What you described jumped off the page for me. It is the essence of a concept I’ve been developing called Story-Listening and being a Story-Listener™. Which eminated from an experience I had with a medical doctor prospect of mine in 2004 who became an incredibly loyal client as the result of me listening between the lines to the magic and humanity of her story. I was genuinely curious, genuinely interested, and detach from a transactional outcome, except to clearly and deeply understand her.

    • Thanks for the great example Bruce! Too often we focus on the words being said, ignoring how they are said, what the person is really trying to communicate, or what they are not saying. Drilling down into these helps us understand the “music between the notes.”

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